A new breast cancer diagnosis can be extremely overwhelming with a tremendous amount of information to process. There are many factors that will play into deciding how you will tell your children about breast cancer.
This video will discuss children’s development, behavior and common reactions as well appropriate language and sample dialogue regarding treatment. We hope the following information will help encourage and empower you to talk with your children about breast cancer. (more…)
by Jan Owen James When someone you love has cancer, you may feel as if you don’t know how to help. The following list was developed by cancer survivors.
Each of us has a primary “love language.” Think about your love language, as well as the love language of your loved one who has cancer, to determine the best thing to do. To discover your love language, observe how you most often express love to others. If you hug everyone you see, your love language may be Physical Touch. Determine what you most often complain about not getting from others. If your spouse goes on a business trip, and you say, “You didn’t bring me anything,” your love language may be Gifts. What do you ask of your loved ones most often? If you crave getting together for lunch or coffee, your love language may be Quality Time. (http://www.5lovelanguages.com/) (more…)
by Jeff Tomczek
Your relationships are about to change. All of them. Some will get stronger. They will probably not be with the people you would expect. The people you want to handle this well might not be able to for a variety of reasons. Some of the reasons will be selfish. Some of them will be entirely innocent and circumstantial. All of them will be forgivable because no one plans for cancer. Carrying bitterness or anger won’t help your recovery. Fighting for anyone to stick with you won’t cure you. Those who can, will. (more…)
by Jan Owen James
Many of you have been through chemo or have walked alongside those who have. But nothing prepared me for the mountain of learning that I’ve had to gain in order to safely journey my way through chemo. I figure that if I didn’t know some of the following tidbits, there are probably some of you who didn’t either. So as a public service, here’s what I never knew about chemo. (more…)
by Jan Owen James
Yes, I have had breast cancer. And I fought it. I probably had surgery. I might have had radiation. I might have had chemo. I might have lost my hair. I might have looked differently. I might have acted differently. Thank you for supporting me through that season of active treatment.
But now what? I look “normal” to you. I “seem” like I have good energy. I am acting pretty close to the way I used to, or so it seems. I may be back to work or back to the regular routine I had with the kids before cancer hit.
You say, “I’m so glad you got through it!” “I’m so glad that’s over!” “I’m so glad you’re DONE with that!”
But guess what? I have a secret to share with you. (more…)
After we’re diagnosed, all of us experience “losing” friends to cancer. The following article explains why the people we “think” will be by our side might not be during cancer …. and why others we never expected take their place beside us.
I Lost a Friend Today
by Beth Whitley
I lost an old friend this week. Not in the idiomatic sense that he passed away, nor in the literal sense that I misplaced him in a crowded supermarket and never found my way back to him. Although, metaphorically, perhaps that’s exactly what happened: we lost each other in the crowded supermarket of life, and by the time we realized we’d gone astray, there were just too many aisles and trolleys and shelves of tinned goods to find our way back. Of course, if I hadn’t been pushing a wheelchair maybe I’d have been able to keep up a bit better. (more…)
by Kim Keller
People with cancer are supposed to be heroic.
We fight a disease that terrifies everyone.
We are strong because we endure treatments that can feel worse than the actual malignancies.
We are brave because our lab tests come back with news we don’t want to hear.
The reality of life with cancer is very different from the image we try to portray. (more…)